Does this work? Should I do it?Love experts: Is this dating advice true?
Yes, this does work, but there's more to it that you need to understand in order for it to work well. Of course, this is assuming that you really like the guy and want him to be attracted to you!
First, you want to make yourself look busy, but the key is to make yourself look busy because you have jst too many fun and interesting things going on in your life. As a guy, if I like a girl and she's busy having a ton of fun with other people, then I want to see her more, because she sounds fun to be around. You do not, however, want to make it seem that your'e busy because you're organizing your closet or has some stuff that you need to get done. That might actually make the guy lose interest in you, because your life sounds dull and boring.
Second, it's not good to send the impression that you're too busy, because you don't want to hang out or do anything with him. Rather, you want to send the impression that you do and are excited to do something with him, you just have all this other cool stuff going on, that you won't have time to hang out until later in the week. If you do that, you both let the guy know that you like him, but you also increase his interest in you, cause he'll see you as fun and will want to see you even more.
In the end, I do think this works well, and I would recommend doing it. Good luck!Love experts: Is this dating advice true?
It just really depends on the guy. Some guys are clingy and like seeing a girl a lot even at the beginning of a relationship. It doesn't hurt to be ';busy'; sometimes though... lol. Some guys love the chase. If you appear unavailable it'll just make them want you more for some reason. That doesn't mean playing games with him, just don't be available every single time he wants to see you.
Nope, if a woman does this to a man who wants to date her and she makes her self this busy...He will just move on or date more women.
I have heard this before and it bothers me. Let me tell you why, because it's a game. If two people are interested in each other then they should just go with it. Otherwise, do you really want the attention of someone who only responds to 'playing hard to get.' Trust me, it will be the first game of many.
You don't want to PRETEND to ';make yourself look busy and not too available'; just because you think it's ';the best way to get a man to want to see you more';. Because that's a bunch of CRAP.
The best way to get a man to want to spend more time with you, is to make the time he spends with you --%26gt;%26gt; AS MUCH FUN AS POSSIBLE.
That makes perfect sense, wouldn't you say?
Where did you get the idea that seeing a man only twice a week (at first) is a 'consiquence'???? How much time do you EXPECT that he should WANT to spend with a woman he HARDLY KNOWS????
When you are dating --%26gt;%26gt; You are SINGLE.
When you are in a relationship --%26gt;%26gt; You are NOT.
';Dating'; is the period of time which affords you the chance to keep yourself available for the right person. During this time, you should not see each other more than once or twice a week . . . for at LEAST 3 months before considering entering a ';relationship';.
MANY women have a problem with this because they would PREFER that he date ';HER, and ONLY HER'; starting at the first date. . . . and that the relationship should just naturally EVOLVE from there.
But what they don't REALIZE is that he is NOT OBLIGATED or REQUIRED to just WANT to enter a relationship with her ';automatically'. Noone should just ';FALL'; into a relationship.
Entering a relationship (if you expect it to ever succeed) MUST be a conscious descision where BOTH people mutually agree to seek fulfillment ONLY FROM EACH OTHER. If ONE person is not willing to to this, then it's only a matter of time before it ALL FALLS APART.
And it takes TIME for BOTH people to want this.
You don't just start dating a guy, and assume he is just supposed to spend all his time with you . . . that it's called a ';relationship'; now . . . and he's a huge ****** if he doesn't want that right away.
You follow??
But guess how many women out there actually EXPECT EXACTLY THAT!
Allowing yourselves to develop good, fun, healthy MEMORIES together TAKES TIME. You want to KNOW that you are stepping into a relationship with someone you WANT to be in a relationship with. Not just because you spend alot of (too much??) time together at first . . . so now one of you THINKS it's called a ';relationship';.
It doesn't work like that, even though MANY WOMEN WOULD PREFER IT DID.
If you want a man to WANT to be in a relationship with you, spend more time with you, love you, care about you, then that depends TOTALLY on HOW MUCH FUN YOU ARE TO BE AROUND.
It does NOT depend on how much you PRETEND to be unavailable, just because you heard somewhere that ';it works';.
Cheers!
:)
Games are stupid
You risk making the guy think you are not interested
so he will end up looking for something/someone else
who is more readily available to him
yes, if he really likes you he will wait. Dating is not eating instant noodles
yes, don't look desperate
Whatever, Sure and Hope for the best.
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