What Advice Would You Give Somone Who is About to Date a Guy With a Child?

I recently met this guy, he is absolutely amazing in every single way. When we met he had just got out of a relationship with his ex, who recently found out she was pregnant. I am 20 and the guy is 21 yrs. old. He is actually not sure that the child is his bc the mother cheated on him. However he is being a man and is doing everything he can for the child (who hasn't been born yet). He even wants 2 get full custody of the baby if it is his when it is born. I personally believe that this shows that he is facing his responsibilities. Although him and the ex are not together he still does what he is supposed to do and treats very nicely.





So my question is, do you think it is a bad idea for me to get involved with him? Like I said, he's really a great person, but I am wondering that if him and I get together how things are going to be. Has anyone else ever been in this situation? Is it really too much baggage?What Advice Would You Give Somone Who is About to Date a Guy With a Child?
I had this exact same situation happen to me....so much so that it's creepy to read your question.





Advice: You have to ask yourself ';are you ready to play mommy? Are you comfortable with the fact that he will need to spend lots of time with the baby's mother coordinating visits and such? Are you prepared for the possible ';baby mamma drama';? Are you secure enough to handle the fact that when the baby comes, his views about his ex may change (watching a woman give birth to his child can do that to a man). Are you ready to give up partying to sit at home and babysit w/ your bf? Are you ready to feel like the odd man out because his ex and him will now have a bond that you don't share with him?';





It's a very difficult situation. I went into it thinking that ultimately my life wouldn't need to change since I was only dating this guy. But after 8 months we decided to move in together and by the 9th month we had a baby boy in our house.





If you decide to date him (and I'm not saying you shouldn't) just know that there will be a lot of things to contend with.What Advice Would You Give Somone Who is About to Date a Guy With a Child?
You are making excuses for him. If he was responsible then he wouldn't have got the girl pregnant or even thought he did, no matter what we say you have already decided that you want him so you will learn later on when the circus happens when the baby is born or when he gets you pregnant. he wants to steal the other baby from its mother, and you know what that will make you, its new mother
Take things slow. If the child is his he will forever be connected to his ex. So there will be issues if they are not mature and ready for a child together. It will change a lot between you two because he will have an added responsibility. Dating someone with a child is not as easy as dating someone without.